skarai 2009-09-01 05:54:06

I like rants, because they're usually pretty honest.
Rant, vent, rat

WritersBlock 2009-09-01 06:01:09

I know what you mean, but all I could think about was the fact that you said "hard on" in the title. :3

You'll always be able to dig yourself out of a rut. I always do it with literature or music, and I'm not exactly special or unique in this fact.

Vincoid 2009-09-01 06:19:23

You should stop thinking so much. What you're doing right now is thinking too much, putting yourself down, thinking negative thoughts, etc. What this does is distract your brain from finding solutions to your problems.

When we focus on what we want and deal with it constructively and positively, our mind automatically sets out to find solutions, opportunities and answers. That's why, when we least expect it, we suddenly have these great insights. The truth is that they were being created in your subconscious from the moment you consciously wanted a solution. It's just that it takes time and opportunity for your brain to shout out to you and show a complete picture.

By being negative and focussing only on what does not work, you stop this process. Your mind can't sort out anythingas it's too busy making you feel bad. What you need to do is consciously put an end to feeling bad about yourself and trust that you unconscious mind will present a plan for you to follow. You need to look at those things you're weak at and find ways to improve them. If you feel that you are expecting too much from yourself then make it your goal not to expect anything.
Don't focus solely on the result you look for but focus on how to get there. By focussing only on what you want you create a picture in your mind that you already achieved it. Then, when you actually achieve it, you can't feel satisfied. After all, you achieved what you expected to achieve, so how can you be happy? By not expecting anything, achieving your goals becomes exciting again.

Remember this; nothing you do is wrong! There are endless amounts of choices you can make in life and none of them are bad. Every single choice has it's own outcome and every single outcome is a learning experience. The trick is to be open to it. Only by accepting that you can learn from the worst experiences will you find ways to deal with them.
By beating yourself down you will miss these opportunities, become afraid of making choices and stop doing the things you want to do because you might just make a mistake.
Though that does keep you safe from failure, it also keeps you from improving and being happy. Only when we fail and make mistakes will we be able to see what we did wrong.
You already see what it is that you did wrong. Hopefully I made you aware of a few others. Knowing these you can do one very important thing; learn from what you have done and find solutions.

BasV 2009-09-01 11:32:31

man I read your whole post and I care. Or do I? And.. or did I!? DUM DUM!!